Went to see a movie and join a discussion, yesterday ... "The Descendants" ... set in Hawaii. The George Clooney moderator-main-character begins by noting that people imagine that Hawaiians spend their days surfing and lolling-about on the beach .... no recognition of the vagaries of life that visit those who live in Paradise.
The movie goes on to demonstrate how complicated things can become ....
Indeed, they can.
I was in another discussion, this weekend. What is the expression? People who can, do. People who can't, teach others to do. And people who retire from formal teaching, engage in discussions.
This second one was about the marriages portrayed in the Book of Genesis. One person was very struck by the presence of love in the marriage of Rebecca and Isaac .... I have long been impressed by (and dared to write and speak about) the absence of any good relationships in Genesis. Even Ole Becky and Izzy fail (that's a harsh word) as they get lost in preferences for one twin or the other ...
Life is complicated. I don't blame those who get lost in the circularity that I described:
Pain and Loss
Presumption that these are being intentionally induced
Range of expensive emotions (anger, withdrawal, depression)
Refusal to indulge in healthfully relaxing activities
Pain (more Pain, that is) and Loss (old friends give up on them ....)
Indeed, these folk have no way to share or communicate their pain without acting it out and making all those others whom they imagine are living in Paradise to feel with them. Some Technical Thinkers about the quotidian, day-by-day, happenings of life invented a 50 expression for this ... they call it projective identification. But at its root, Les Miserables know of no other way of communicating their misery and the experienced aloneness that attends it except by spreading it.
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